I can’t put my finger on the exact moment I first heard the phrase, but it stuck with me. I think I was pregnant and probably soaking up all the best advice I could get on being a positive influence on my child. In my mind, my own attitude played an important role in raising a happy, healthy, and confident little girl in a world that often praises good achievements and performances. The words came to mind again today during a routine trip to the playground…
You all know by now that I’m a huge advocate for spending time outdoors, and introducing our children to the power of nature. And for a long time, I’ve been a big supporter of Take Me Outside, an organization founded by my friend, Colin Harris, which is a non profit organization committed to educating and creating awareness with Canadians about our connection with nature and our time spent outside. On October 28, 2015, the organization is hosting Take Me Outside Day to raise awareness of the importance of unplugging and spending more time outside.
Fast-forward two years, and I live in a different scenario. The realities of life and financial needs call me back into the workforce. My burning desire for adventure calls me out into the mountains. And my toddler’s need for independence and understanding calls me into the most intense throes of parenting to date. Now I am simultaneously a mother, wife, and adventure-seeking individual with a need to make money in this world.
I know as well as any new mama how it feels when that-friend-who-started-trail-running-a-month-after-delivering-a-baby posts a photo of her latest baby-free jaunt through the woods. I’ll admit I still feel those pangs of jealousy as I think back to my own first month postpartum, to my post-baby body. I still feel them now. On the surface some women make it seem like they just plopped a baby out and then it’s business as usual. (Is this actually ever the case!?) Physically speaking, it seems they heal quickly and their bodies are good to them.
This just wasn’t, isn’t, the case for me. And I discovered that comparing myself to others really is futile because I don’t want others to compare themselves to me. I know that I post a lot of photos of me doing active, outdoorsy things, so I wanted to set the record straight. Since May, I have only been doing those things when I feel good enough to do them. Otherwise, I’ve been coping with health issues that have come as a major surprise to me.
A surprise and a major wake-up call.